I apologize if my post implied she was a failure for coming back home. Not intent . Rather, i feel the traditional dad expects the son to be more self -reliant than the daughter. In today's world is that fair ?Only reason she came home after the year on her own was that she lived in Manhattan and the rent was $2500 a month.
from the start she said she wanted to try it out, signing a 1 year lease. I told her whatever she wants to do is fine with me. I even gave her the first 6 months rent.
We both felt it was going to be a Test.
There was No, I'm Moving Out ! or I'm not living home... It was totally mutual
loserville more is about being unemployed or at a dead end low wage job imoWhat's your opinions/thoughts on this? At what age is someone approaching "loserville" by still being in their parents house?
North America likely one of few locations on Earth where people are shamed for sharing housing among two or more generations.
I have encountered numerous situations here in Tampa Bay area where families will purchase two 'normal-sized houses backing up to one another and then build fencing to construct a virtual compound where five to six adult money-earners can pool their resources while also assuring that multiple school age children are provided for in above-average fashion.
No day care costs because the grandmothers and mothers pool their time to not only make money but also provide stable home environments. Surplus money is channeled into doubling house payments and feeding college education funds.
In all cases, these families are first or second generation immigrants. I have never seen it with families indigenous to the USA for 3+ generations
I apologize if my post implied she was a failure for coming back home. Not intent . Rather, i feel the traditional dad expects the son to be more self -reliant than the daughter. In today's world is that fair ?
that $2500 rent was void of sex . The boy would have paid the same with similar salary
full disclosure - we have two boys , will never experience having a daughter .the sensation /feeling obligating to help more ? To be more protective ?
You Western European background ?
After I got divorced I moved back in with my parents to get back on my feet. Saved money, got sober, used it as a launchpad to move on with my life. I was 31. I don't care if anyone thinks I am or was a loser, it was by far my best option at the time.
Its only "loserville" if the kid is doing nothing with his/her life. If kid is living at home but is in school, working full time at low pay, getting their life back together, then there is nothing wrong with it.
If kid is living at home mooching, sleeping til 11, playing on the computer/video games all day, then its loserville
My Daughter went off to College and when she was done, she came home. Then took an Apartment for a year and then came home.
Stayed, had a full time job until she got married.
I believe Girl's are just different than boys and need their parents more. Plus I feel you don't care if your Son is shacked up with some Girl... You don't want your Daughter shacking up with some guy.