You, your wife, or your child

[sparticus]

if i recall this was recent....sorry again sparticus...looks like you are still taking it hard. fwiw, i think although 14 years younger, the fact that you were in better health the past 6 years it was probably better her than you as you can hopefully still live a full life. She would have been left without her caretaker and husband.

Thank you for the kind words, yes it is a daily struggle for someone my age at 73 & no other family member, other than a 1st cousin who invited me to thanksgiving day dinner. I was asked to be a consultant/buyer for an auto dealer [spent 40 yrs in the business] on a parttime basis that i willingly work for 6hrs a day instead of 2-3 hrs that they wanted me for, as it keeps me around a lot of people especially younger ones & keeps my mind occupied, but it gets awful lonely at home after work, thank god for sports, especially foots & with hoops coming. I will dread the holidays that are coming with out Janet.

 

[hippieki11er]

sorry to hear sparticus, hope you find some peace

 

[quantumleap]

Me,as i ask god every day why he did not take me instead of my wife who was 14 years younger than i, that a house fire tragically took her life.She had shown a dramatic improvement with her health issues in the past 6 mo's or so, as i had been her caretaker for the past 6yrs, it has left a big void in my life, as i miss her so much. Yes i wonder & ask every day why didn't he take me, instead of Janet?

There is a reason for everything sparticus. I know it's hard to believe that when you're in the depths of the world. But there are ways out of those depths. There is free counseling to those who need it. It can work wonders. There is no reason to be miserable.

It sounds like you are on the right path to surround yourself with other people at this time of your life. But there are ways to help you through the dark times.