1. Date for a LONG time, at least 2 years.
2. Both must be AT LEAST 21, preferably even older as people can change a lot between 21 and 25.
3. Marry a mate who is ALREADY happy and who makes himself/herself happy, not someone who needs you to make them happy or will be happy "once X happens."
4. Marry a mate who has similar sex drive to yours.
There is a food that decreases a woman's sex drive by 92%.
It is called "wedding cake."
2. Both must be AT LEAST 21, preferably even older as people can change a lot between 21 and 25.
3. Marry a mate who is ALREADY happy and who makes himself/herself happy, not someone who needs you to make them happy or will be happy "once X happens."
4. Marry a mate who has similar sex drive to yours.
There is a food that decreases a woman's sex drive by 92%.
It is called "wedding cake."
El Iguana said:
could not agree more with #3. also, with respect to #4...i find that doing little things around the house (doing the dishes, folding laundry, etc) dramatically increases my chances of getting laid. not something that we ever discuss but, it is a big factor non the less.
Make a list of things you have fought about at least 3 or more times...........if there are "pending" issues you will most likely have the same fight over and over and over again............
I have had a few friends for whom I could have spelled out why they were going to have big issues just by watching the issues they had during dating stage
I have had a few friends for whom I could have spelled out why they were going to have big issues just by watching the issues they had during dating stage
There are things you and her do that makes her wanna be with you KEEP DOING THEM!!!!! If you change when you get married she will change as well and you probably won't like the changes. If you guys go out alot keep going out alot. Married women like to be wine and dined. Do it every weekend at the minimum and suprise her every chance you get. If these are things you don't want to do religiously then don't get married. No marriage is 1000 times better then a bad marriage.
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I have a lot of advice but I dont have the time right now because I got too much :money8: riding on the games and I am watching PUJOLS DOMINATE.
Ok on to marriage.
I would thoroughly discuss all the big issues before you even think about getting married. Make sure you have dated at least 2 years before you talk about these things because during the Romantic Phase you will agree on everything even if it is not really who you are.
Just some off the top of my head:
1) SEX---expectations, compatibility, views etc....
2) MONEY---savers or spenders, who will be in charge, will money be combined, how will it all work.
3) IN-LAWS---need to have a full discussion about this from both sides.
4) KIDS---yes, no...how will you raise them? will one be the disciplinarian? what schools will they go to...how will you share the workload?
5) Religion
I have plenty more but I need to watch the games.
Ok on to marriage.
I would thoroughly discuss all the big issues before you even think about getting married. Make sure you have dated at least 2 years before you talk about these things because during the Romantic Phase you will agree on everything even if it is not really who you are.
Just some off the top of my head:
1) SEX---expectations, compatibility, views etc....
2) MONEY---savers or spenders, who will be in charge, will money be combined, how will it all work.
3) IN-LAWS---need to have a full discussion about this from both sides.
4) KIDS---yes, no...how will you raise them? will one be the disciplinarian? what schools will they go to...how will you share the workload?
5) Religion
I have plenty more but I need to watch the games.
One friend told me
If I had a penny and put that penny in a jar for everytime we had sex before marriage, I would have an entire jar full and it would be overflowing. If I took a penny out for everytime we had sex while married, that same jar would be overflowing.
Marriage=less Putang :thumbsup2:
If I had a penny and put that penny in a jar for everytime we had sex before marriage, I would have an entire jar full and it would be overflowing. If I took a penny out for everytime we had sex while married, that same jar would be overflowing.
Marriage=less Putang :thumbsup2:
make sure you GIVE and TAKE in your marriage NO MATTER HOW much you love her now the NEWNESS will wear off for sure 100%! , you will get used to each other and the love should still be there but it will be different after a few yearsBitterlittleman said:
and you have to have a base for a long relationship
you WILL change what you like to do no and SHE will change GO with it and give each other FREEDOM when that happens
Marriage is for suckers...but I guess it's worked well for some of us.
I will give you some of the best advice I ever got.
A woman would rather have 1 hour of uninterrupted and devoted attention than 5 hours of distracted attention. So for at least one hour of your day, turn off the TV and the computer and listen to what she's saying, don't take your attention off her. Then that will leave the rest of the day to do what you want. Like watch football or play some golf.
One of the best books I ever read on the subject of relationships is called The Relationship Cure by Dr. John Gottman. No matter how good your relationship is you can always work to make it better, remember Tiger Woods still takes golf lessons.<o></o>
I will give you some of the best advice I ever got.
A woman would rather have 1 hour of uninterrupted and devoted attention than 5 hours of distracted attention. So for at least one hour of your day, turn off the TV and the computer and listen to what she's saying, don't take your attention off her. Then that will leave the rest of the day to do what you want. Like watch football or play some golf.
One of the best books I ever read on the subject of relationships is called The Relationship Cure by Dr. John Gottman. No matter how good your relationship is you can always work to make it better, remember Tiger Woods still takes golf lessons.<o
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