I dropped my son off at college today, and I'm having a bit of a hard time with it...

[festeringZit]

First one to leave home.

It's hitting me harder than I thought it would.

I'm not ashamed to admit I cried a bit, and am still teary-eyed as I type this.

He's one of those kids that I love dearly, but I also like - we have a lot in common, and
enjoyed sharing music, sports, movies, philosophy...

Just so sad that he'll probably never be living with us again, for any length of time.

I know it's just part of life...

 

[thecentaur]

Introduce him to gambling. He'll be back living with you in no time

JK zit, it's great that you have that kind of relationship with him

 

[NBAcapper08]

First one to leave home.

It's hitting me harder than I thought it would.

I'm not ashamed to admit I cried a bit, and am still teary-eyed as I type this.

He's one of those kids that I love dearly, but I also like - we have a lot in common, and
enjoyed sharing music, sports, movies, philosophy...

Just so sad that he'll probably never be living with us again, for any length of time.

I know it's just part of life...

I'm sure my dad felt the same way. 7 years after moving out I'm back and he probably can't wait for me to find a house and leave again

 

[festeringZit]

Introduce him to gambling. He'll be back living with you in no time

JK zit, it's great that you have that kind of relationship with him

hahaha

 

[boss415]

My gf dropped her kid off at Cal today. It is a relief because it has been nothing but stress and drama for a week ! I wish all the kids starting school well and am bracing myself for the extra traffic.

 

[Greenbacks]

Hang in their FZ.....Sounds like you raised a good one....Be proud!

 

[Coldweather]

You sound like a great father and Dad to your son. That is very special and he will always live with you in a very rare and special place. You should be very proud.

 

[Willie99]

I was sad when I dropped of my daughter in 2004

I was heartbroken when I dropped off my son in 2005 and we were officially empty nesters.

For nearly 20 years they occupied our daily lives, and I was driving home feeling like there was a death in the family

It will pass Zit, you'll be fine my friend, your relationship with your kids is just taking the next step, it's in a constant state of evolution

Embrace the progress, you're doing your job well

 

[festeringZit]

Thanks for the encouragement guys... I can't imagine what it must be like to lose a child to some tragedy. I'm putting this in perspective.

 

[JustinCruise]

My little guy is 5 weeks old today and don't feel bad because I'm going to lose it the first time he's goes to day care. Hard to believe someday he will have aspirations and dreams of his own.

How are old are you FZ? thought you said once you were only mid 30's? if so, you must have had children really young.

Congrats on your son going to college. I was the first person in my family to graduate college and I want my son to have even more opportunities than I have. I'm sure you're very proud, and rightfully so.

I also have a strong feeling he won't conform to the bs liberal mentality of most our college students these days

 

[GurlGoneWild]

My only son started college last week too. It's just a big step being a parent and letting our kids go. He says one day he'll move to Japan. I can only imagine one day...

 

[DNoonan]

Hang in there man. You seem to have a good perspective on it and I'm sure you've prepared your kid to succeed.

 

[DNoonan]

Introduce him to gambling. He'll be back living with you in no time

lol

 

[Defying]

Hang in their FZ.....Sounds like you raised a good one....Be proud!

You sound like a great father and Dad to your son. That is very special and he will always live with you in a very rare and special place. You should be very proud.

I was sad when I dropped of my daughter in 2004

I was heartbroken when I dropped off my son in 2005 and we were officially empty nesters.

For nearly 20 years they occupied our daily lives, and I was driving home feeling like there was a death in the family

It will pass Zit, you'll be fine my friend, your relationship with your kids is just taking the next step, it's in a constant state of evolution


Embrace the progress, you're doing your job well

+1

I can't pretend to understand.. but the evidence suggests you have a lot to be proud of

 

[HamGlaze]

Maybe hopefully after college he'll find a good job close to home and he won't be far away if it all turns out. Sad but happy for you at the same time Zit. I'm sure you'll both say in touch quite often.

 

[pocketrockets]

Introduce him to gambling. He'll be back living with you in no time

JK zit, it's great that you have that kind of relationship with him

Yep, or send him to pokerstars jk lmao. Referral bonus anyone?

Zit, all good man, he is becoming an adult now but he will still need your advice and support. Try setting up a you and him vacation yearly... a nice boating/fishing trip, good meals... the friendship can only get better as he finds in you a person he can trust and look up to for advice.

 

[Keef]

First one to leave home.

It's hitting me harder than I thought it would.

I'm not ashamed to admit I cried a bit, and am still teary-eyed as I type this.

He's one of those kids that I love dearly, but I also like - we have a lot in common, and
enjoyed sharing music, sports, movies, philosophy...

Just so sad that he'll probably never be living with us again, for any length of time.

I know it's just part of life...

I just got back today from moving my second child to college and I share your tears. This one will be several states away while my first is hours away so much different.

How far away will he be?

If within a distance to where he can commute every weekend, take my advice and do what you can to have him stay on campus at least the first 4 to 6 weeks. This is the sweet spot to where they get acclimated and where friendships are formed. This is also the time you get acclimated to him being gone.

Nothing wrong with the tears. It's the end of an era. And trust me, tomorrow when you don't see the bed unmade, clothes on the floor etc. but instead see a much emptier and organized room, those tears will come back and you are going to shake your head wondering where all the time went.

Our goal as fathers and mothers is to get our kids to adulthood armed with an education and decision making skills so they can be productive and caring people in life. This is part of it.



And to Justin Cruise, I think you asked about moving to a 15 year mortgage. Do it. While there are advantages to not doing so, trust me, you will love having your house paid off by the time your kid(s) head off to college. Those 15 years are going to fly by.

 

[statman03]

He'll be back when he gets out of college.......and probably with a large student loan to pay off.......it's the style now. I still have two here, one in his thirty's and the other with a master's degree age 29. Two have moved out but I had to buy both of them houses. Kids are lucky to find a good job today.

 

[KingEleven]

I have one in college also so I completely understand. Gonna be very weird though when I reach empty best status like Willie. Best wishes to you and your family FZ

 

[VIEJODINOSAUR]

First one to leave home.

It's hitting me harder than I thought it would.

I'm not ashamed to admit I cried a bit, and am still teary-eyed as I type this.

He's one of those kids that I love dearly, but I also like - we have a lot in common, and
enjoyed sharing music, sports, movies, philosophy...

Just so sad that he'll probably never be living with us again, for any length of time.

I know it's just part of life...

Exactly....it is part of life....but it sounds like you have a great relationship...nothing tops that...

Try leaving the house after a divorce and moving away from your kid....especially a young child....that is a mess...

Good luck to you and your family....visits from your son will become special...