Has anyone had a trial separation from their wife or or girlfriend?

[AlwayzRight]

How did it work out in the end? We don't want to end the relationship but feel we need to work on the relationship. We are not going to date anyone else and will still see each other but one of us will be moving out for a month and then we will reevaluate the relationship.

 

[HarryCaray]

Yeah. We were both fucking someone else within a month and eventually got divorced, and I haven't spoken to her since.

I can't imagine this works out well more than 5% of the time. GL though.

 

[RenoChazz]

Yep, ended up divorced too. But I'd already made up my mind before it happened. We did the therapy thing too, that's when I learned I hate therapist.

 

[TheComputerGroup]

Yeah, but with a gf......I can't imagine doing this with a wife. Me & my gf got back together tho.

There's a lot of reasons why you might want to do this, & my situation had nothing to do with us cheating on each other or wanting to date other people.

For me, it was that we were spending entirely too much time together, even at work all day, so we mutually agreed to live apart for a month to see how it went.

We got back together because we missed being together outside of work, haha........I guess as the saying goes, you don't know what you have until its gone.

As long as you have a trusting relationship, everything else is easy IMO.......

 

[bigbet1234]

Don't work. Just end it

 

[Willie99]

my best buddy was separated for nearly a year, they both had flings

but they got back together and have been together for over 15 years now, actually celebrating their 30th anniversary in two weeks



if it's meant to be, it's meant to be

once divorced, a lot more in life changes than just the two of you separating, nearly everything changes

sometimes a simple concession can keep things together, other times it's irreconcilable

 

[Redagger029]

Don't work. Just end it

+1

Don't prolong it. Just cut the cord.

 

[TheFalls]

I work with couples on the brink of divorce on a weekly basis.

If you are married, don't do it.
If you aren't married, you shouldn't be living together in the first place. so do it.

 

[HarryCaray]

Yeah I just don't get the whole "we need to be separated to work on our relationship" mentality. It makes no sense to me. If you need to work on your relationship, then you need to do it together, not apart. It takes work on both sides, separating just drives a wedge and makes it easy to not do that work.

In my first and second-hand experience, whoever is peddling this load of crap that you can actually work on your relationship by spending more time apart, is pretty much always the one that wants to fuck other people.

So if you're going to end it, just end it. And if you want to try to save it, separation will make that almost impossible.

My .02, and of course there are exceptions.