Employers do you get mad when someone accepts a job that goes back on the offer

[KingofNicotine]

I want to know because I got offered a better job then my current employer told me they would offer me something better so I had to call the new boss and tell him I was staying at my current job.

I hate to get people mad cause this is a person I might deal with later down the line. Is he right to be mad? Did I do the right thing?

I signed an agreement to my new pay but nothing further. I would have started in 2 weeks so it's not like I called the day before or something like that.

 

[MattyMatt]

Were you looking for a new job or headhunted for this new job offer?

 

[festeringZit]

I had a potential employer once (20+ years ago) make me a job offer, and I asked to take the weekend to think about it.

Then when I called them on Monday morning, they said the position had been closed (gave some lame reason why).

I'm not sure if it was true that they just lost the job req, or they didn't like me taking the weekend to think about it.

But, I was pissed...

 

[KingofNicotine]

I guess it goes both ways then.

I was looking for a new job basically. Felt bad cause the guy was very professional and nice and didn't think my current employer would offer me much more since they are very cheap.

 

[rolltide]

I want to know because I got offered a better job then my current employer told me they would offer me something better so I had to call the new boss and tell him I was staying at my current job.

I hate to get people mad cause this is a person I might deal with later down the line. Is he right to be mad? Did I do the right thing?

you'll regret the decision and in 6 months you will be gone, 1 year max. whatever dissatisfaction that led you to interviewing elsewhere will come back in full force at your current job once the euphoria of your pay bump diminishes and, frankly, you should have been asking yourself why your current employer didn't think you were worth "something better" before you went in to resign

not to mention your current employer will remember how close you were to leaving so if it comes down to you and someone else for a promotion, guess who gets the job? and if it's down to you and another to be laid off, guess who is on unemployment? best thing you can do at this point is hitch your wagon to your current boss that got you the counter offer because if he leaves the company or your division I guarantee you will be the odd man out.

worst thing anyone can ever do in their career is accept a counter.

 

[Redagger029]

you'll regret the decision and in 6 months you will be gone, 1 year max. whatever dissatisfaction that led you to interviewing elsewhere will come back in full force at your current job once the euphoria of your pay bump diminishes and, frankly, you should have been asking yourself why your current employer didn't think you were worth "something better" before you went in to resign

not to mention your current employer will remember how close you were to leaving so if it comes down to you and someone else for a promotion, guess who gets the job? and if it's down to you and another to be laid off, guess who is on unemployment? best thing you can do at this point is hitch your wagon to your current boss that got you the counter offer because if he leaves the company or your division I guarantee you will be the odd man out.

worst thing anyone can ever do in their career is accept a counter.

Totally agree.

Can't see where you did anything wrong. This happens all the time in business. It's one of the few times the employee has any real leverage.

I am surprised you would want to work for a cheap company though. From what you say, you'll be in the same scenario in a few years from now when you want

another raise.

 

[HarryCaray]

you'll regret the decision and in 6 months you will be gone, 1 year max. whatever dissatisfaction that led you to interviewing elsewhere will come back in full force at your current job once the euphoria of your pay bump diminishes and, frankly, you should have been asking yourself why your current employer didn't think you were worth "something better" before you went in to resign

not to mention your current employer will remember how close you were to leaving so if it comes down to you and someone else for a promotion, guess who gets the job? and if it's down to you and another to be laid off, guess who is on unemployment? best thing you can do at this point is hitch your wagon to your current boss that got you the counter offer because if he leaves the company or your division I guarantee you will be the odd man out.

worst thing anyone can ever do in their career is accept a counter.

Smart man right here

 

[HarryCaray]

To answer the original question, I have encountered the same thing from several angles.

As the "courter", it's irritating, but I get over it and decide I am better off without some ship-jumping carpetbagger that's probably just trying to work me for leverage with his current employer.

No offense. But you burn this bridge as you run back across it in most instances.

 

[Hamilbet]

I never minded. Its Better to get someone right for the job and take longer to find, than have some shmo take it just to leave in 2 weeks

 

[KingofNicotine]

you'll regret the decision and in 6 months you will be gone, 1 year max. whatever dissatisfaction that led you to interviewing elsewhere will come back in full force at your current job once the euphoria of your pay bump diminishes and, frankly, you should have been asking yourself why your current employer didn't think you were worth "something better" before you went in to resign

not to mention your current employer will remember how close you were to leaving so if it comes down to you and someone else for a promotion, guess who gets the job? and if it's down to you and another to be laid off, guess who is on unemployment? best thing you can do at this point is hitch your wagon to your current boss that got you the counter offer because if he leaves the company or your division I guarantee you will be the odd man out.

worst thing anyone can ever do in their career is accept a counter.

You might be right. I told other people that. I think now I'll be the 2nd highest paid not counting supervisors who are on salary. Another co-worker told me I was a fool for taking the counter offer.

 

[HarryCaray]

Were you looking for a new job or headhunted for this new job offer?

The key question

 

[pocketrockets]

You might be right. I told other people that. I think now I'll be the 2nd highest paid not counting supervisors who are on salary. Another co-worker told me I was a fool for taking the counter offer.

Lets hope it works out for ya

 

[HarryCaray]

You might be right. I told other people that. I think now I'll be the 2nd highest paid not counting supervisors who are on salary. Another co-worker told me I was a fool for taking the counter offer.

Sometimes stories have happy endings. Nothing is wrong with being "the courted."

I can tell you a happy story about that, which involves me and a whole lot of ESPN and charcoal-cooked ribs.

 

[DNoonan]

As an employer, yes. If you are just using the offer as leverage you do so before you accept. But it is what it is, I'd worry most about what is right for you vs who you might piss off when it comes to these types of decisions.

 

[HamGlaze]

I'm at a job where they don't give any raises unless you give notice i.e. you've found another job. And the game goes like so...If they like you they will either match or offer more to get you to stay. If they don't like you they'll just let you go as is. The company figures they save money by not doing raises and they'll ride it out as long as they can with cheap labor and then to make a decision as to whether or not it's worth keeping you when you decide to leave by threat/job offer. The company is in a win/win. I've seen people give notice and end up staying after a "wage negotiation" and I've seen people give notice and they couldn't give two shits about. I think the cost savings comes in when they don't have to pay unemployment either. When the economy took a big hit back in 2008 the employers were in control pretty much. And they still are in many ways after 7 years. But the tide is changing and no longer will they be able to get by by taking advantage of employees and the price tag that's coming of the influx of newer highly talented younger employees.

 

[weezyfbaby]

Was literally in this same situation 7 days ago. Start at my new company monday. At the end of the day I drew the same conclusion as redagger that if it got to this point now I'd be in the same bad spot in a year or two. Had I taken the counter I don't think I would have burned a bridge with the new company but not worth risking it for me.

 

[Willie99]

is money the only important variable?

work conditions?
benefits?
stability?
potential?

 

[NBAcapper08]

I haven't received a raise in 3 years. I went from owning a small business to working for a place I thought I could grow with. Turns out employers just don't care about you.

 

[Acebb]

If I were you, I would think about and write down the reasons you were looking to leave the company. It can't be solely based on money.

Otherwise, the #1 reason people leave a job is because of their manager. And, the #1 thing employees want at work is recognition (salary is at the middle of the pack) so I would suggest you think about it and for now, not make a call saying you're staying put.

 

[DELSOL]

Not cool. I have given opportunities and had them pass last minute. The seat could have been filled, client could have been happy and it fucks up our work force management to properly staff an account.

Employees complain about company loyality. Well, follow through on the foundation of the theme of proper business ethics. At least with a ton of time for the company to make last minute arrangements on your decision and multiple options on their end so they are not left with pie on their face Monday morning.

GL with your gamble. Hope it works out.