My wife also knows. It's pretty much evolved into a don't ask don't tell policy. There is no way I could flat out lie to her about something I knew would take up a good chunk of my free time. With a family, I learned pretty quickly to accept the bad beats, because if she or one of the kids needs me for something there is no way I can be all pissed of at them for a bad beat. We're celebrating 25 years later next month.