<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by DougJ:
I agree with Mr. Tanaka. For me when I die, do whatever, a dumpster is harsh, but I'd lean to cremation, as an acceptable alternative. Cremate my body, and use it as cat litter, would be OK, with me ! I sure don't want my head frozen in liquid nitrogen, at near absolute zero temperature !
I guess your religious beliefs, would factor into this equation. I think all religion is a bunch of B.S. Essientially people afraid to die !
I don't like this discussion, at all !
My father died in 1993, my mother buried him. I haven't visited his grave, once ! I don't know why, perhaps I prefer to remember him in my own way !
My mother died in 2001, I had no instructions to assist me, I opted to cremate her, it was a very difficult decision, one I shouldn't have even had to make. My older , more successful brother ( engineer ) should have made the call here ! However, I was local, and he was 2k +miles away .
This haunts me very much, to this day, I'd like to have done what she wanted ! I'm unsure if I did the correct thing !
I'd urge anyone reading my writings, to make their wishes known, to their loved ones, in advance ! Therefore, you make the decision, not someone else.
My mother died a slow death, where here mind was robbed from here by degrees, like President Reagan.
My brother and I ( and our wives ) spread ( one half of ) her ashes in a coastal waterway , near Daytona Beach, she liked Florida.
I still have the other half. I don't want them in an urn on my mantle over my fireplace, actually don't have a fireplace. I don't know what to do with the rest !
I'm torn, as to what to do ! Last wishes, would have been nice, then I'd know. It haunts me, everyday !
I'm sorry to be so long winded, and melo-dramatic, but this thread hit hard !
I asked my wife this question, she gave a non-answer. I want to be placed in a" Mauseleum", (sp ?), not practical ! alternative... live forever.
Doug<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
Doug -
I always know/knew my parents wishes, My Dad was on his death bed and he whispered to me make sure you burn me and at the cheapest cost than take the money you saved and take everyone, brothers and sisters and Mom on a nice trip.
I am in the same boat as you I have the Ashes but what the hell do I do with them ???
Maybe I will throw them into the wind someday and put a close to it.