What is wrong with being a secular/reformed Jew?
The seculars and reformers are always the first in line to militantly march around with PLO flags and kiss the cheek of the enemy, so you tell me. I'm sorry, I just see these people as weak, self-hating appeasers. They're ashamed of who they are and would rather submit.
And what is wrong with marrying someone you fall in love with if they're not of the same religion?
It's confusing to the child and changes the generation line. Being Jewish is all about ETHNICITY that traces back to the original covenant with God, a concept I'm sure you understand. So with respect to this subject, when Jews intermarry, they're further losing this most sacred identity which was already robbed from them in the Holocaust. Do you realize how many generation lines were lost? If that event in history hadn't happened, then things might be different in this regard today, but it's not. So, yes, I believe it's a responsibility for Jews to marry within themselves to make sure their identity lives on, and let me tell you, every Jew I know outside of the reform movement (and some within) emphatically agrees.
A have a cousin who is a Hasidic Jew. His brother is a pot-smoking hippie who married a Christian in a non-religious ceremony. I could go on and on.
THIS IS THE WORLD HK; GET USED TO IT!
I'm very much in tune with what's happening with Jews in the west, and maybe that's the world *you* know and are used to, but it's certainly not reality everywhere. Drug use is absolutely not tolerated under any circumstance, it's got to be the most sensitive issue I've noticed about Jewish culture, they're unrelenting in this matter which I've always found very interesting.