Meanstreak,
I'm always glad to acquaint people with the UM if I can see brain activity on a similar wavelength.
The way I see it, 95% of people are so deeply involved in the workings of the big societal machine that they are not even aware of it. Some are happy there, others are not, but there is no strong desire to break away for fear of a worse fate on the other side.
Of the other 5% some (like me and the Unabomber, Bobby Fischer, some of my buddies and others) are physically in the industrialized world, but are emotionally, mentally and spiritually detached from it. This is based on firm convictions and usually comes with a well-defined philosophy of life which, while far from being perfect, is at least internally consistent and serves as a base from which everyday actions can be derived.
Also in that 5% are people like yourself, who are feeling the pressure by society, have needs for autonomy that render society evil and repressive (a very logical and reasonable position IMO), and are struggling hard to piece it all together and come up with a coherent philosophy of life that can stand up to scrutiny and is consistent with observed external phenomena.
Any paranoia you may have comes from proponents of industrial society who would like to label you as "ill" or "insane" to try to coerce you to act in ways which benefit society -- ie. obediently work in some 9-5 job, be docile, respect authority, and accept the little dog biscuits you get in exchange for your loyalty. If you can be sure that someone is on the other side -- ie. respects the needs of individuals first and foremost and believes the system should be structured around people and not the other way around, then you can be sure that this person does not consider you "insane", rather he considers society inhumane and has some empathy for any psychological stress this may cause.
If there is anything I am trying to tell you it is that I think you would benefit by reading the UM many times and doing some deep meditation on it from time to time. It did wonders for me and sure sped up the process in forming my current world view and philosophy of life which I am quite happy with and look forward to passing down to my children and my children's children.