Serious Question

[raidermattk]

As you know if you have read my other thread I did a little stint in prison. Yesterday I get this bombshell laid on me; my fiancee tells me that well I was in the big house my dad came over to our face and felt her up while she was sleeping.

I am not making this shit up. It sounds like Springer trailer trash stuff but I am a good guy ( Ibeat up an off duty cop while I was drunk he had it coming ). My father is the President of a large food distribution company, and my fiancee is a Registered Nurse.

My father swears up and down there is no truth to this. I tend to believe him as him and my mother are still married first and only marriage for both of them. He has always been a very prudish person, growing up I scoured the house for porn and came up with nothing.

I love my fiancee but she has a psycho streak in her. She has called the police on me before and had me arrested for beating her, even though I never did. She continues to threaten that still when she gets upset with me. She lied to me about some guy raping her before we were together. When we first met she was married and openly cheated on her husband with me.
We also have children together.

She has agreed to take a polygraph as I told her I don't believe her.

A couple of questions ;

1. What are the odds of beating a polygraph?

2. Who would you believe?

3. What would you do?

Thanks for the input guys.

 

[Smartass]

1. Less than 1% unless you have had some prior experience in that area.
2. Me personally my dad, because he is an honest man and I have had experience with a lot of women who would make up crazier things.
3. Here's what I would do:

In about three days, tell her you have arranged for her to take a polygraph at __________. Begin driving there. If she either tries to back out, or begins panicking or saying things like, "You know polygraphs aren't 100% accurate," she is full of shit. If she readily goes along with it, have someone call you, and tell them your meeting was cancelled.

It's an imperfect solution, but your problem really doesn't have a perfect solution.

 

[Timetopay]

Did your girl like your dads touch? Or maybe she wants your dad to know she is interested.

Nah really man fucked up shit. I would strap them both to the detector and see

 

[raidermattk]

Did your girl like your dads touch? Or maybe she wants your dad to know she is interested.

Nah really man fucked up shit. I would strap them both to the detector and see

Here is the thing with my girl, she started going to medical school to be an MD last year and since then her attitude sucks.She thinks she is so fucking smart it gets annoying. My gut feeling is I believe the old man and my fiancee honestly thinks she can beat the polygraph. I have been on a nonstop binge since this news came out. The other night me and my buddy racked up a $200 tab at TGIFridays bar and very little of that was him. This shit stresses a guy out.

 

[Illini]

That's fucked up. She doesn't sound like the most stable person in the world, and I'd say the odds are -1000, at least, that she is the one lying. Then again, BTK was a church going, law abiding citizen, or so they thought. Either way, it's a sad situation for you to be in, because you are going to suffer a major loss, one way or the other. One is lying, and whichever one it is, neither offense is forgiveable.

 

[raidermattk]

That's fucked up. She doesn't sound like the most stable person in the world, and I'd say the odds are -1000, at least, that she is the one lying. Then again, BTK was a church going, law abiding citizen, or so they thought. Either way, it's a sad situation for you to be in, because you are going to suffer a major loss, one way or the other. One is lying, and whichever one it is, neither offense is forgiveable.

Exactly, she has the nerve to ask me questions like " why have you been drinking so much" If she can't figure it out I would say she has to be lying. She is dead wrong if she thinks lying about something like that is cool. You remeber my strip club post I have been hammered by noon everyday since I have heard this. I am going to find out the truth and you are right neither offense is forgivable. I will either lose my father, or my fiancee and the mother of my children. I have given them both fair warning to come clean and told them I will 100 times more pissed off if I have to rely on the polygraph to tell the truth. I was sent to prison on BS and I honestly think this is worse.

 

[raidermattk]

dude you asked your girl to take a polygraph test. that relationship is going nowhere.

In this case what other option is there?

 

[X-Files]

Why would this lie be worse than the others she committed?

Is your dad a habitual liar like her?

You've stayed with her &, i assume, forgiven her other lies, so why stop now?

 

[MIKEY.1TIME]

Exactly, she has the nerve to ask me questions like " why have you been drinking so much" If she can't figure it out I would say she has to be lying. She is dead wrong if she thinks lying about something like that is cool. You remeber my strip club post I have been hammered by noon everyday since I have heard this. I am going to find out the truth and you are right neither offense is forgivable. I will either lose my father, or my fiancee and the mother of my children. I have given them both fair warning to come clean and told them I will 100 times more pissed off if I have to rely on the polygraph to tell the truth. I was sent to prison on BS and I honestly think this is worse.

trust me, if you stay in this relationship, you will be back in the big house fro one reason or another!!

 

[DonMelchor]

trust me, if you stay in this relationship, you will be back in the big house fro one reason or another!!

that's what I was thinking, she can call the cops again, probably you're on probation, so you can end up a few more years on the can.....

It's hard to give up on the mother of your children, but sometimes is better that way.....

 

[WVU]

What did she have to gain from lying? Does she want you to hate your Dad?

Your dad certainly had a lot to gain from lying if he did.


I am going against the grain and saying that I believe the girl. That has happened to just about every girl at one time or another.

The real question though is why would anyone marry someone who would openly cheat on their spouse? Do you think she was faithful while you were in the hole? There is no way.

 

[Hookandcrook+]

What did she have to gain from lying?


What did she gain when she was lying about some guy raping here?:think2:

 

[WCBias]

Matt, I think I have some good advice for you. May not sound like the best option now, but believe me, 5, 10 years from now, you will remember the wisdom of WC Bias....



Run

 

[tkim11]

I agree with Desthi. If you have to take your girl to a polygraph test you have to break it up. What type of relationship can you have when you're already doubting her?

Family first. I'll trust my dad over any girl any day. The fact that she has a history about lying to you regarding rape and other shit, that'll give me enough evidence to blow her away.

Good luck, bro

 

[steaktartar]

let me play devils advocate your girl is hot? i assume she is ok for sure....your father getting older hard to make it happen with his wife it is possible he felt her up

 

[Biggamer3]

You say she has lied about rape in the past, and she cheated on her previous marriage with you.

You got yourself a real catch my man, this marriage wont last longer than Britneys first marriage, and quite possibly end up like OJ's marriage did

 

[WVU]

What did she have to gain from lying?


What did she gain when she was lying about some guy raping here?:think2:

we do not know why she said that and she probably did gain something out of it. We also do not know she was lying...he didn't say how he knew.

 

[RupertPupkin]

Dsethi and Tkim11 are on the money on this one , this bitch has lied to you about RAPE in the past. Think about that for a minute before we continue. It sounds like she is a master manipulator control freak looking to use you as her chief puppet. As most caniving cunts will do, she sees your father as a threat. Somebody you are close with and trust, she wants to destroy that trust, so in the future ( after your married) you will side with her on certain key issues , instead of with Pops. Its all in the cards my brother, and so obvious. The good thing about this is that she is your fiance ( which in French means "you can still get the fukk out before its too late !!!" ) And I suggest you do just that. Theres plenty of fish in the sea, if you just got out of the slammer ... I'd go on a "Fishing" trip and ditch this bitch.

ps I'd go with Smartass's advice if you really do love her and want to go along with the marriage

 

[Maniac]

I think you need to speak to a lawyer and start making a list with all the shit she keeps pulling.

Alright, if it ever came down to it then it would be your word against hers, but at least there would be something in place that "may" help you fight your corner.

Do this esecially if you do decide to break up with her, as I would guess that is when she will really go to town on you...

 

[SmokeyLa]

I love my fiancee but she has a psycho streak in her. She has called the police on me before and had me arrested for beating her, even though I never did. She continues to threaten that still when she gets upset with me. She lied to me about some guy raping her before we were together. When we first met she was married and openly cheated on her husband with me.

My man, these are your words about your soon to be wife and you have questions about who to believe? lol.

Homeboy try this: Break up with that crazy-ass bitch yesterday. If not, you get what you deserve, no offense.