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[BradN]

People, my best buddy has the worst of problems, and this is not the kind of threat where you say my best buddy and it is actually you, I have two kids and a wonderful relation with my girl friend soon you´ll find out what I mean.
He got his girlfriend pregnant , they sort of had a messy relation however when they found out she was pregnant he took care of everything she needed, they both did and for the four first months they were planning on renting a house together and raise the baby. They had a fight and now the girl is saying that my pal is never going to see her or the baby again, when she is born I mean, she is almost 7 months now, I was actually pretty good friends with her but she cut all of his friends off, change phones she is basically lost and off course she lives with her parents and they hate my buddy so no chance of just dropping by her house, I think that the worst part is that for four months they went to the gyno together and looked at baby stuuff, his parents helped her a lot when her parents didnt even know about the pregnancy and so did he, she is only 20 and a little immature I figure. I know my friend has a really bad temper but I think that any problems they might have should stay among them. My buddy is feeling like shit and it breaks my heart to see him like this, ****** has told me that he´s thinking about suicide and I was like; man fuck that! he has a really solid job and he is a nice guy, he is now seeking legal counseling but not much you can do until the baby is born, what do you think? every response is greatly appreciated and will be forwarded to my buddy if it helps.

 

[BradN]

some grammar errors I typed it fast enough so that I wouldn´t get caught at work!

 

[-Slim-]

I mean no disrespect by this, trying to help out.

This is a gambling forum, so its not exactly the best place in the world to search for advice. Best advice I or anyone can give you is have your friend seek professional help. If he is considering committing suicide (which is doubtful, considering people who threat it dont go thru with it) its best he talks to someone who can really help him, someone trained to do so. A psychologist is his best bet.

As far as working out anything with the girl it truly is up to both of them only, no friends, no parents no nothing involved.

My 2 cents.

 

[BradN]

Dude, I hear you! not trying to get the key to solve to the problem, which I agree with you , should be worked out between them however just an opinion on the matter, like; do you think the girls solution is the best? fudge I dont know LOL not personal opinions but thoughts, thanks anyway dude!

 

[-Slim-]

I have no clue because I dont know either one. What was their fight over? do you know?

 

[BradN]

done that

oh yeah and he is been getting professional help for a while now, so just thoughts will be nice, thank you all, and again I am sorry but I have seen threads about porn, movies, sandwishs, new restaurants, power cuts...and I ve read some threads that showed a lot of common sense so I figured it will help,I bet there are plenty of cases like this one around.

 

[BradN]

you wont believe this crap

The whole fight was about a damn craddle and stuff for the baby, a fight over material stuff but it turned into this huge fight where he said that she was not supportive and wanted to get only new things for the house instead of using some of the old stuff they already had, somehow it got messy !

 

[RICK1979]

One of my friends had the same situation not with the suicide issue though, with his kid's Mom not wanting to talk to him b/c he was an asshole to her. Her parents hated my friend too and he was really mad, pieced and sad about the situation with him not been able to see his own kid after the baby was born. After time she realized that the baby needed his father too and that he had all the right to see his baby, in another words her conscious came thru and she opened up her heart and realized that it's not the baby's fault. As an advice to your friend about not been able to talk to her now tell him that sooner or later she will realize the baby needs a father; about the suicide issue tell ur friend to seek help with a Psychiatrist and Psychologist.

 

[-Slim-]

brad, dont get me wrong, not trying to discourage u from posting either, as u say, there are all kinds of threads here, which is a good thing, just pointing out that it might not be the kind of place where answers can be very helpful, maybe just provide a topic of conversation where something helpful can come out.

 

[-Slim-]

about fights in relationships, it is very easy to get into em and many times they can escalate pretty bad. its tough to make any calls on a relationship one knows nothing about but most fights are in fact about things that are completely irrelevant, unfortunately the fights get huge by the time we realize we are in one.

 

[BradN]

One of my friends had the same situation not with the suicide issue though, with his kid's Mom not wanting to talk to him b/c he was an asshole to her. Her parents hated my friend too and he was really mad, pieced and sad about the situation with him not been able to see his own kid after the baby was born. After time she realized that the baby needed his father too and that he had all the right to see his baby, in another words her conscious came thru and she opened up her heart and realized that it's not the baby's fault. As an advice to your friend about not been able to talk to her now tell him that sooner or later she will realize the baby needs a father; about the suicide issue tell ur friend to seek help with a Psychiatrist and Psychologist.

DUDE you hit the spot, I have been trying to tell him the same thing, you are right in so many levels, about the shrink, he currently visits one, and he is not the kinda guy who would tell every one about killing himself but since this is anonymous I just brought it up, dude thanks again.

 

[BradN]

about fights in relationships, it is very easy to get into em and many times they can escalate pretty bad. its tough to make any calls on a relationship one knows nothing about but most fights are in fact about things that are completely irrelevant, unfortunately the fights get huge by the time we realize we are in one.

I know man, it has happenned to me I just think there are divided opinions on this matter cause one of HIS best friends is a girl and she is totally on the girls side and says that is his fault for being an ass however I dont think he was that much of an asshole to loose rights on his blood. thanks slim

 

[RICK1979]

DUDE you hit the spot, I have been trying to tell him the same thing, you are right in so many levels, about the shrink, he currently visits one, and he is not the kinda guy who would tell every one about killing himself but since this is anonymous I just brought it up, dude thanks again.

Anytime Brad and as one last advice, I see you care about your friend a lot he must mean a lot to you, just be there for him at all times, he needs you right now. Good luck with your friend brotha!!!

 

[Katwoman]

The whole fight was about a damn craddle and stuff for the baby, a fight over material stuff but it turned into this huge fight where he said that she was not supportive and wanted to get only new things for the house instead of using some of the old stuff they already had, somehow it got messy !

a pregnant woman is a pool of hormones. Have you ever had your girl PMSing? pregnancy is even worse, and women tend to unload their hormone overload in whomever is closer to them, in this case, your friend.

I'm not speaking out of personal experience here, but I've had pregnant girl friends that can't be near their man while they are pregnant.

It's very difficult to say/ give more advice without knowing more on the situation... good luck

 

[BradN]

Anytime Brad and as one last advice, I see you care about your friend a lot he must mean a lot to you, just be there for him at all times, he needs you right now. Good luck with your friend brotha!!!

Hey man he is my best buddy and it hurts to see how this whole thing ended up, cause I lived the first four months with him. And now after seeing the baby in the ultrasound thing at the gyno and preparing himself with a family plan it must be devastating to just loose everything from one day to another.Rick, thanks man your 2 cents are greatly appreciated and you can be sure I will pass your thoughts onto him one way or the other, kudos!

 

[BradN]

a pregnant woman is a pool of hormones. Have you ever had your girl PMSing? pregnancy is even worse, and women tend to unload their hormone overload in whomever is closer to them, in this case, your friend.

I'm not speaking out of personal experience here, but I've had pregnant girl friends that can't be near their man while they are pregnant.

It's very difficult to say/ give more advice without knowing more on the situation... good luck

Got ya! great to hear a girls perspective and I think you are absolutely right since the same thing happened with my GF but we got thru it with love and an incredible effort. My friend hired the best family lawyer in the country , costs like 2 hundred dollar z to walk by hiz office...but I think things can be handled out of a court of law, thanx kat woman great post!

 

[DELSOLII]

Besides gambling, there is a lot of really good information shared here in regards to real life.

I have asked for advice before and have been very happy with the responses given. Many posters give their time and do seem to care.

I wish you and your friend the best of luck.

Sol II

 

[BradN]

Thanx guys!

Once again the Rx community steps up, KUDOS to all and thoughts are still welcome!